Bullying is not ok. Whether it’s online, or offline. Playground, or in the workplace. Bullying can be aggressive or passive aggressive. It can be subtle or it can be a punch in the face. The sort I encountered as a child was a mixture of the two, I was jibed at, pushed and shoved, called names, and bitched about. I’ve always been fairly hot headed so it didn’t bother to an extreme extent. The sort of bullying thats transcended into my adult life has ventured into the online arena, usually by and from what I would consider my peers. I always fairly subtle, like a subtweet, a like or a favourite of a targeted tweet or post. It subtle but it’s directed at you, whether they wanted you to see it or not, it was directed at you via means of a cloudy communication, and it was probably hate that they wanted to get off their chest in a moment of jealousy and mania. I’ve had this sort of treatment from large LGBT figures, to just your random gay guy. I’ve had people feel the need to just tear me down of an afternoon. Sometimes I think I’m an easy target because I’m so open online. I’m the easiest for someone to unload their own bullshit onto. I take my clothes off so it’s easy to brandish me a whore. I’m opinionated with a brain, so it’s easy to brandish me as a controversial fire starter. But luckily I can see through all of this. It hurts when someone you respect online decides to randomly line you up in front of the firing squad, but equally, it immediately makes me lose all the respect that I did have for them.
The only thing I choose to do now, as an adult, is call people out on it. For the sake of the child that was too scared to say anything, and for the sake of all the people who follow me who may also be too scared to say something to their bullies.
Usually they will somehow make you seem like you’re the one with the problem, or you’re trying to start trouble, or that you’re weird. Well, if it’s weird to call out your bullies for their bad behaviour, then stay weird.
Bullying is never ok, no matter what package it comes in or how disguised it is. Let’s all be a little nicer. Spread joy, spread love. Elevate other LGBT people, and you in turn will be elevated yourself.
It’s very easy to tear someone down, but it’s not so easy to stand up for others, and yourself.
writing my thoughts straight from my head in london town